Dear LoveBites, my husband Gerald passed away three months ago, but he refuses to leave the house. He rattles the pipes every time I try to watch my programs, knocks over my wine glass when I bring a date home, and last Tuesday he spelled “TRAITOR” in the steam on the bathroom mirror. I miss Gerald, but I also miss having a social life. What do I do?
— Haunted in Harrisburg
Dear Haunted,
Gerald may be dead, but his jealousy is very much alive — and frankly, exhausting. Three months is far too soon to be spelling accusations in bathroom steam. I recommend a firm but loving conversation: speak aloud into the air (he’s listening, trust me), and set clear boundaries. If he knocks over one more Chardonnay, hire a medium. And perhaps wait a touch longer before bringing dates home — not because Gerald is right, but because it is, by any reasonable standard, still quite soon.
LB