Dear LoveBites - The man I love is emotionally unavailable, goes cold without warning, sometimes seems to vanish mid-conversation, and I’m told he died in 1987. My friends say I should move on. But the connection feels real. What do I do?
— Haunted and Hopeful
Dear Haunted,
The connection may be real, but the relationship has a ceiling. He cannot grow. He cannot change. He is, in a meaningful sense, stuck. You deserve someone with a future, not just a history. Let him go — and if he truly loves you, he’ll stop rattling the pipes at 3 a.m. and finally move on too.
LB